1 Chronicles 4:9-10 Jabez was honorable above his brothers; but his mother named him Jabez [sorrow maker], saying, Because I bore him in pain.¹⁰ Jabez cried to the God of Israel, saying, Oh, that You would bless me and enlarge my border, and that Your hand might be with me, and You would keep me from evil so it might not hurt me! And God granted his request.

It’s hard to believe that 25 years ago a tiny book was written by Bruce Wilkinson titled The Prayer of Jabez: Breaking Through to the Blessed Life. A Wikipedia article about the book noted: In the book, Wilkinson encourages Christians to invoke this prayer for themselves on a daily basis: I challenge you to make the Jabez prayer for blessing part of the daily fabric of your life. To do that, I encourage you to follow unwaveringly the plan outlined here for the next thirty days. The book became an international bestseller, topping the New York Times bestseller list and selling over nine million copies by 2002.

What strikes me most about this passage of Scripture is that it emerges from amidst three chapters of genealogies. Many a new years resolution to read the Bible through has ended abruptly when encountering what appears to be an endless genealogy. Yet, Psalm 25:2 states clearly that it’s the Glory of the Lord to conceal a matter – but the glory of kings is to search out a matter. God conceals these hidden gems to see if those who are destined to be kings and queens in His Kingdom are willing to persist in the search for His hidden treasure. One pastor wrote that Jabez was the unknown who became well known.

Not only was Jabez a nobody, his birth and arrival was cursed by his mother, and his dad was non-existent. There wasn’t a blessing to be received from either parent. Chuck Swindoll, noted: The English rendering is Jabez, but the Hebrew is pronounced yah-betz (the second syllable sounds like the word baits.) His mother had the Hebrew word ah-tzav in mind when she chose her son’s name. The term ah-tzav refers to anguish, intense sorrow, or pain. To arrive at his name from the Hebrew word, you transpose two letters. So it’s a pun based on sound play. This would be like someone who hates cottage cheese, which is made from milk curd, saying, “I don’t prefer milk crud, thanks.” Somehow, his birth was associated with intense pain, though we have no idea how or what that pain might have been.

Jabez overcame, in spite of his curse, becoming a honorable man. Chuck Swindoll adds that: “The Hebrew word for honorable literally means “heavy.” We use that same concept in English when we say, “This is a weighty matter.” When used of a person, it conveys the idea that he or she is impressive or noteworthy.” What made him honorable or noteworthy is not specifically mentioned in Scripture. Yet, anyone reading this passage can see what is inferred: Jabez cried to the God of Israel,…In a polytheistic culture this was uniquely, and distinctly different from the average inhabitant of Canaan. Jabez chose Yahweh to be his God, and God chose to answer his prayer.

Jabez prayed a mountain shaking prayer. Filled with faith and desperation, he cried out saying, Oh, that You would bless me and enlarge my border, and that Your hand might be with me, and You would keep me from evil so it might not hurt me! And God granted his request. In Jewish tradition the phrase, “your hand might be with me” when referring to God means that God’s protection, guidance, and support are with you. Essentially it signifies that you are not alone and God is actively involved in your life, providing strength and assistance. The “hand” metaphor represents God’s power and presence in a tangible way. What’s truly amazing about his prayer is that he was not born-again. He did not have the indwelling Presence of the Godhead living in him. He did not have the testimony of Jesus’ life, or Resurrection, yet he has the boldness to pray that God’s Power and Presence would be with him in a tangible way. Modern, western-minded, church attenders are typically waiting to die and go to Heaven in order to “know” God in a tangible way. Jabez was not having any of that. He was in pursuit of the “Prize” – the “Pearl of Great Price.” He refused to allow his circumstances, or the spiritual climate that surrounded him to determine the altitude he was desiring to ascend to.

Big things are made up of small things. Big destinies are typically shaped by small, ordinary, everyday choices – when nobody is watching and no one cares. BUT GOD. What little thoughts have you been having; what tiny choices have you been making? Are you willing to turn life’s stumbling blocks, and curses into stepping stones of advancing into the reality of God?